Advice for dating someone in the military
Saying goodbye is the worst feeling, especially when you have no clue when you will see him again. I always thought those relationships never worked out. Receiving gifts in the mail is spontaneous and a way to keep the relationship alive after months apart.
Not seeing him for a long period of time, dealing with an inconsistent schedule and taking the relationship day-by-day can be exhausting. Flowers, letters, books and other thoughtful goodies remind me of him while he’s gone. You keep the relationship going by creating new ideas to do together.
It hurt most at the time because my service member and I had been together for years. In the civilian community, people wouldn’t dream of constantly reminding you of “your place.”.
Of course, there are a few military girlfriends who give the title a bad name. They take advantage of service members and make poor choices.
As gender roles are in a period of change, learning the basics of what you can expect from a relationship with a soldier is more important than ever.
My boyfriend is a soldier in the United States Army. Understand that these guys have to deal with things that the average person couldn’t imagine.
He listens to all the whining and complaints you have throughout the day. Having a girl who is down throughout the circumstances is a keeper. Technology nowadays makes it easier to communicate with others.
Curious as to what I was in for, and wanting some solid guidance, I went looking for advice on how to be a good Army girlfriend. However, in my own time as an Army girlfriend, I’ve come upon a few revelations of my own. Dating a soldier is a commitment, and not one to be taken lightly. Above all, talk to people who’ve lived it and ask them to be honest. If you’re not ready for to be an Army girlfriend and all that it entails, break it off. As soon as my guy used the g-word, I hit the keyboard and called my sister-in-law (retired Army wife extraordinaire). Soldiers work long hours that they have absolutely no control over. If you’re one of those girls who always needs a guy on her arm, get used to disappointment. You’ll have time for your friends, family, hobbies and work. And odds are, one of the reasons his time with you means so much to him is because it’s one of the few times he can get away from that life. My boyfriend and I have plenty to talk about, from video games to the funny cashier at the grocery store, and I never bring up the Army to any extent greater than asking him how his day went. If your man is ready to introduce you to the guys in his unit and/or regiment, it’s a big step.
Dating a man in the military is even better than dating someone at home. Men in the military have great stamina, strong body muscles and sometimes tattoos all over their bodies. You feel protected when you’re around him, and you know everything will be okay, on your good or worst days.
Even when he is not physically there for you, he’s there when it counts. He spends months not seeing you and limited hours talking or texting you. As soon as he wakes up and goes to sleep, while he’s training and as he spends countless hours digging a hole in Texas while sweating his balls off, you are on his mind.
It’s for reasons like this I’d never considered dating someone in the military, but then I did.
It was one of those typical relationships I knew I shouldn’t have began in the first place solely because of the distance, but when we continued talking after he went back to his duty station it just grew into something.